Dating someone less attractive
For the rest of us, according to the matching hypothesis, we are more likely to love those who are equally as attractive as we are.'Punching above your weight' is a concept we're all familiar with when it comes to commenting, usually bitterly, on other couples. one partner has loads of money or an aristocratic heritage)?Over 40 years of studying couples, psychologist John Gottman says it's a matter of "bids." For example, if a bird-loving wife points out to her husband that a goldfinch just flew landed in a nearby tree, he can turn away" from her by dismissing the remark or "turn toward" her by sharing her enthusiasm.
Sure enough, people were selected more often when they were pictured in expansive postures.
But what's less clear is how to get into that position yourself. Or to be less cynical, is it something to do with 'what's inside'? It's true that, broadly, people tend to pair up with others who are genetically and physically similar to themselves – or if you're being reductive, '10s' end up with '10s' and '7s' end up with '7s'.